Well, I am (almost) 20 weeks pregnant...half way! For my own pride (and the fact that I don't have a camera) I am not posting a picture of my huge-ness! Although, I know the whole "getting bigger" thing is part of the deal...it still is shocking to watch your body transform. I've noticed the changes over the last couple weeks but it wasn't until yesterday that others started commenting...which is sometimes fun and sometimes a blow to the self esteem. Let me explain....
Yesterday Ben was SUPER helpful to me...he made his bed, organized his closet, cleaned the toy room, etc without being asked...he got me a big glass of ice water and said "Mom, I will clean up you need to rest because you have a baby in your tummy" Oh, so thoughtful! I was so happy! What a cute boy...I did have the fleeting thought of "why is he all of the sudden helpful...I've been pregnant for a while but TODAY he feels like I need to rest"
BUT there are also downfalls...Last night as I was getting ready for bed Benson says "Man, the baby is getting really big!" in a shocked voice.
I say "Is that your way of saying I look huge"...that was followed by silence I think that means yes!
But the real kicker was today I was at the gas station with Ben and Nate. Ben really wanted me to clean the windshield and I didn't want to so I said "I'm not tall enough" and he said "Mom, I think its because you are fat" WHAT??? What did he just say? I couldn't believe it! I guess he has been helpful lately because now he can see that I am pregnant!
I felt like I was going to cry...I called Benson and he TRIED to make me feel better by saying Ben is only 4 and doesn't understand what pregnancy is...blah,blah...thanks for the effort, but the damage was done!
Ben overheard my conversation with Benson and later tried to make me feel better and said "Mom you are kinda fat, but I still think you are pretty."
18 comments:
ha, Im sorry but Im laughing OUT LOUD right now.
For the record, you arent fat, you look great for being 1/2 way along.
ps- MAYBE Benson didnt hear you ask him "is that your way of saying I look huge" remember..the bad ear??!!
I agree with Meredith - you look great!
Oh, Kyle, I so feel your pain right now. There is just nothing anyone can say to make you feel better about the alien-like shape our bodies take on when we are pregnant. I admit that I am to the point now where I don't really want to go anywhere where I might see people I know. Sadly, I am kind of happy that we aren't going anywhere for Christmas and that no family is coming here. Is that so vain?! I just do not like being around people when I feel this huge and gross!! So there you have it. My name is Arian and I am prideful. :)
Hang in there. The last 20 weeks always seem to go by sooo much faster than the first 20.
When I was 8 months pregnant with Israel, I substituted in Primary in the 6 year-olds class. At the end of class, we had some extra time, so I let the boys play hang-man. (There were only boys in class that day.) I thought I was being so cool but of course, the very first boy uses "the fat teacher is really fat." I did go home and cry.
Oh - I know, go get a pedicure and manicure. Painted nails ALWAYS makes me feel pretty!
I know what you are going through. With my boys I am all out front and thats it. And I mean ALL out front. Pregnancy is fun but stinks at times like these. Lucky me I don't gain much weight, but that is because I am trowing up the WHOLE time. Good Luck Kyle.
OOO Ben is so cute to say you are still pretty! It is so hard to get bigger! You are pretty though, and your body is INCREDIBLE, you are CREATING LIFE...how cool is that?
You're pregnant Kyle. And you have a miracle growing inside of you. There is nothing more amazing to me than that! I hope you have a healthy pregnancy! I was sad I wasnt able to go to Susan's funeral. It wouldve been great to see you!
Kyle, pregnancy comments are THE WORST - the only way to combat them is with a good sense of humor, and no one has a better sense of humor than you! I'm just so excited for you, with a new baby girl coming you'll have two of each which is (in my opinion) a perfect line-up!
I just saw you last week and you hardly even looked pregnant! Kids are so funny though. I always like it when Parker looks at me kind of funny and asks, "Mom is there another baby in your tummy"? No Parker- that would be called fat in my tummy! Oh well.
You still are pretty!! I say enjoy it! Eat what you want when you want- u have a good excuse! I'm sure you still look fantastic too!
LOL, but feeling your pain. I think you look awesome though. I'm not pregnant and my kids tell me that I'm just a little fat and still pretty so I just laugh and tell them that is true (at least the fat part!).
I was nearly suicidal during my first pregnancy when my father in law told me (when I was like 4 month along) that I looked like I was a walking circus tent in my dress. The worst part was that he then said that my equally pregnant sister-in-law looked so skinny and he wondered why I looked so huge compared to her. We were in public so I controlled my emotions, but I wanted to curl up in the fetal position and cry. Oh, but I was too stinking huge to do that, right? Okay, I am still bitter and it has been 13 years.
Moral of the story. Don't mess with a pregnant woman and NEVER tell us we're getting big, fat, huge, etc.
But seriously, you look great and I mean it.
Oh the joys of being pregnant!!
Too cute. I love hearing the innocent honest truths that little ones say. To him I am sure there is not difference in being pregnant and fat. Your tummy grows and that is that!! I think you look great.
Men can't say anything right to a pregnant woman!!! That is so sweet that Ben said you are still pretty...I can't believe he organized his own closet! Hey, we tried the Salted Carmel Hot Chocolate at Starbucks...YUMMY!!!
so dang funny!! and i so identify with all you've written. such is this pregnancy process...uggh! so worth it...blah, blah, blah....but challenging, emotional, crazy, etc.! just know you're not alone and focus on the final product...healthy, beautiful baby (at least that's the pep talk i keep giving myself!). hang in there!
We can all relate to the woes of the pregnancy body! Ugh. If I had a dollar for every inappropriate/slightly rude comment I received from total STRANGERS during my pregnancy...
But soon you'll have a beautiful baby girl that will help you forget all the struggles in getting her here.
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